You know the drill. You’ve seen your girlfriends do it. Perhaps you’ve even fallen prey to it yourself. You’ve met a guy, intuitively know something isn’t quite right, but continue dating him anyway. His charm, wit and beautiful, puppy dog eyes instantly melt your heart and you choose to ignore all the signs he isn’t the one for you.
But the truth is (and I’m going to be totally straight-up with you here), if you’re looking for puppy dog eyes, go to an animal shelter! At the end of the day, nobody wants to get their heart broken and if you really want to find someone you can have a deep, reliable and meaningful relationship with, there are certain signs to watch out for.
Avoid anyone who:
Incessantly talks about his ex
While the subject is inevitably going to crop up at some point, and you’ll naturally be curious about each other’s pasts, if he brings her up all the time, it could be a sign he isn’t over her. If that’s the case, he can’t be giving you all the love and attention you deserve, and is actually spiritually dating both of you at once. So kick him to the curb, and find someone who’s emotionally ready to be with you.
He lets you down all the time
If someone truly loves you, they’ll do everything they can to fulfil their promises to you – no matter what. No excuses, whining or last-minute let downs. Simply sticking to their word, and doing what they’ve said they will. Whether it’s not calling when he said he would, or something a little more serious, if he doesn’t carry out what he says he will when it comes to the small stuff, it’s highly unlikely he will about anything else. It’s ultimately a matter of honouring your spiritual integrity, and putting your emotional health first.
You’re always chasing him
Feel like you’re always the one doing the leg work? Tired of deciding what (and when) you’ll be doing everything, and having to organise (and sometimes even pay for) every date you go on? If so, you’re dating the typical emotional cruiser. The kind of guy who’ll happily go along with your suggestions, but isn’t actually investing anything (spiritually or physically) into the relationship. Unless you’re a deeply controlling person, who likes to control everything, it’s time to send him packing, and look for someone who’ll totally cherish you.